It’s not all about you. Your date didn’t contact you after the text message confession because his cat of fourteen years was getting a blood transfusion. It wasn’t because you divulged too much, and he didn’t feel the same way. If circumstances had been different, dating wouldn’t have been demoted to the bottom of his priority list. If this wasn’t your story, it might even be comical. If this was any other guy, you wouldn’t be privy to the details of his cat’s health, and he wouldn’t have sincerely offered you the consolation prize – a friendship. With some regret and a tinge of relief, you have accepted this because all you were really looking for was a possibility.
Maybe you needed this connection to wake up and move on. Now, you know that good writers with big hearts are out there, but you won’t necessarily find them walking the same path or cruising the same online site. And you might just have to ask yourself why you are turning your nose up at your online and offline suitors. Why do you have so many stipulations? Perhaps, being single right now is okay. And if this is not the case, I offer you the advice of Augusten Burroughs…..
“You need to scrape your face against reality. You need to realize that being single when you don’t want to be single anymore says nothing about your lovability, attractiveness, or quality as a person. It says, volumes, though about the limits you’ve established with respect to looking for and meeting new people.” – This is How: Proven Aid in Overcoming Shyness, Molestation, Fatness, Spinsterhood, Grief, Disease, Lushery, Decrepitude & More. For the Young and Old Alike.
Whether you’re searching or contemplating the ‘one’, know that if it is meant to be, no cat or circumstance can interfere. Be yourself, and don’t over think. Be open to the possibilities, and connections you make along the way.